A family is God’s Masterpiece and it should be treated so. Research shows that families which are built on the foundation of love survive relationship issues better in the future. You might have done your best as a parent, in all possible ways; whether it is your taking care of your child’s health, education, personality development etc. But, how much will be remembered? The most haunting question is- How will you be remembered by your children? Have you created enough family memories to let your children remember the old family times you have enjoyed together?
Why should you store family memories?/Importance of family memories-
Family memories can be one of the best gifts to give your child (on 16th/ 18th Birthday, Marriage etc). Find out why-
Reflecting on the past-
We all love to indulge in childhood memories,don’t we? Having stored memories can be soothing to reminisce on the beautiful family moments which may have now faded from your mind or might be out of your recall. The feeling of nostalgia can make one feel loved and cared for while looking at the pictures of warmth and the love shared by the family during certain events or instances in life.
Remembering the people in your journey of life
The aunt who was as dear to you as your mother, the wonderful neighbour, our grandparents, loved ones and many other people come in our lives, make a difference in our lives, give that much-required ray of hope when you were down or just plain inspire you. We would love to remember those people and the contribution they made in our lives. Your children will appreciate your gift of family memories as it will show them the people who cared for them.
Relive special moments of life
Videos of the first time your child crawled or walked, the first finger food offered, prizes received in school, ceremonies, birthday parties can help you and your child relive their special moments in life, giving them a sense of gratitude and belongingness towards their family. This feeling of gratitude and appreciation is the glue that can keep families together in the future.
Healthy parent-child relationship in the future
In the modern age, where the fight for individual independence, the influence of social media, and the glitz and glamour of the world has overruled all the possibilities of a healthy parent-child relationship, you have to take extra efforts to carve a niche in the life of your child. Having family memories to look at will help your children (in adulthood) understand the importance of the bond that you shared as a family. It will cement your relationship with them for better bonding in the future when they have flown out of the nest.
7 Amazing ways to store precious family memories of you and your child –
In the modern world, everyone is busy and find it difficult to play the role of memory keepers. But this practice of storing family memories will be the insurance for your family’s bond. So it’s worth the effort.
1. Make a family book
Paste pictures of time spent together and write about how you felt at that time. You need not be a poet or a creative writer but the words that come straight from the heart has a lot more power than you can imagine. Every member of the family can write a line or two about what they felt. Say about, a day at the beach, garden, or birthday celebrations etc.
2. Make a family video compilation
Get those awesome moments on the reel, just like you make a YouTube video. Let your children see the excitement on your face when they first took their baby steps, of the love in your eyes when you hugged or cuddled them, blissful birthday celebrations, family playtime. They will surely miss those good old times.
3. Write personalised letters
Write love letters to your children on their birthdays and encourage them to make a collection of those letters. That would be enough to take them down the memory lane when they are away from you. Personalised letters are also a powerful therapy for children who suffer from childhood depression.
4.Archive the old stuff
Baby record book, Baby clothes, paintings, scribbled notes, fashion accessories, soft toys, dolls, just about anything that belonged to your child can be collected. Gift the box containing the old stuff on their 18th birthday or anytime you feel right. They will love to know that you cared to treasure their stuff and valued their little treasures.
5. Spend quality time together
Yes! Quality time spent with your child will create permanent family memories, which your child will cherish throughout his/her lifetime. The feeling of being loved and cared for, the undivided attention of parents, family time moments have a long-lasting impact on children creating a strong bond with the parents. You would love that, won’t you?
6. Write a family memories blog or diary
This is just like writing a daily diary/blog (let me know in the comments if you want me to write a post on how to write a private family blog online) or diary of important events. Feel free to pen down you the excitement, joys and sorrows, how you overcame tough times together, how you accomplished certain difficult tasks, your favourite family recipes etc. Some recipes are lost forever, so your children might love to try their favourite ones when they can cook. This will take them down the memory lane and they will thank you for preserving the precious family recipes.
7. Conduct family interviews
Record reactions, anecdotes of family members on various occasions. A glimpse of your family history or the life and times of grandparents can help the children to develop a better understanding of their family’s roots and lineage. Won’t your child like to see your comments and reactions on important events of their life? Of course, they will! They will definitely thank you for the gold mine of memories that you would offer them.
So go ahead! Create memories for life and a bond that will stand all the tests and temptations of life.
How are you storing your family memories? Please share in the comments below. After all, we are together in this beautiful journey of parenting. Aren’t we?